Please allow me to barf at your pathetic urge for attention.

Ok, I just need to vent quickly and semi-quietly. As you know, my friend Jane has a brain tumor. It's terminal. The situation is bleak, it's been rough, it sucks, and all we want is for Jane to be comfortable and as happy as possible. She has a CaringBridge site which has allowed friends and family to wish her well, and also get updates on her status. However, some of these "friends" have used her message boards for personal use. What I mean by that is, "friends" are posting messages priding themselves on the nice things they have done for Jane, and making them sound 10 times more important to make themselves feel better and it makes me sick. Really, you need to go on and on about the nice things you've done or the expensive things you've bought or cooked for her? Shut up. Seriously. It completely sickens me. There was even a "friend" who called to let us know "how much Jane really enjoyed her company." WTF. Who SAYS that? And do you REALLY know that's how she felt? I mean, come on...I am really, really, really not trying to be a rude bitch, but it just makes me sick to my stomach that people would actually use this as a reason to pride themselves on their own shallow kindness and lame need for gratitude over such a serious situation. Unfortunately, when tragedy strikes, people come out of the woodwork to be a part of it. And I am in no means trying to say that it's not helpful, well appreciated, or not important. But please, if you are doing this for the right reasons, don't try to get more pats on the back, because this is not about you, this is about Jane.